Tuesday, July 25, 2017

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Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Chapter 9 (Pgs. 180-182) Kindle (Pgs.147-149)

People, Possessions, and Positions

How does God define you? Ask God, “Daddy, what is needed from me to do for You and Your glory?”  There is always something to do, but there remains the best portion of what we do.  One way to stay in the flow of the needed vs. the necessary can be found in our various relationships.  Revelation through relationships can be a great indicator of what the Lord is requiring of us.

Sometimes, we as women can feel overwhelmed by all the roles we play in the lives of others.  We are mothers, wives, friends, sisters, mentors, helpers, teachers, and fix-it-all women, the “She-Ra!”  Sometimes, being all things to everyone can be a great distraction from our needs and what we desire from God.  This is a time in the book when you can be real and tell God, “Right now, I need blessings for me in my life.”  If you are like me, I feel like I pray for everyone else, but never go and get my blessings and promises from the Lord.  The “martyr mentality” says as long as everyone else is happy and blessed, then that is good enough for me, but this is not what God wants for us.  God has joy, peace, happiness, rest, and blessings for you and He needs you to ask for them and stop giving them all away.

A while ago, I saw the movie “Confessions of a Shopaholic,” a romantic comedy based on the overly-obsessive compulsions of a young woman trying to define herself by labels, name-brands, and fashion to make her mark in the world and on others.  Well, the only mark she made was that of debt and heartbreak because she neglected the right things for the right sale, the right belt, the right car, and the right handbag. She lost herself and the true meaning of life amidst labels. She bought into the world’s and the media’s view of what a woman should be, look like, and wear.

 I want to enlighten you to this one fact- the Stuff is Sidetracking You!  Yes, I said it!  The stuff is sidetracking you from the true meaning of your life.  I do not believe it is by happenstance that we are now in what the world calls a recession, but what I believe the Kingdom is calling a Refocus!  You are not in a recession, but a Refocus! To refocus means to look again, or focus again.  Just like in the natural, we women all go back to the mirror for a second look before we leave the house. God is requiring us now to go back to the mirror of our spirit and look again.  It is time to Refocus your life!
Looking or focusing on stuff instead of meaning and purpose is causing us to miss God. We need the Blesser more than the blessings.  If you disconnect from the Source, then the current that is running through you will lose its power and burn out.  That is why when you buy stuff, the minimal excitement lasts only for a few days. You cannot feed your spirit and your life with the perishable. What you need is the imperishable richness of the Spirit of God to endow your life.  It is not about a sale, but rather about seeking God.  Go back to your first love, and get your hunger and thirst back for the needed things of life.

“What You Need Most, You Cannot Buy!”

In this season, stop asking God for new doors and new assignments and finish what He has already given you to do.  God is calling us to finish what He has already asked us to do.  The next place does not begin until we finish that which God assigned to us previously.  The worst thing that you can do now is stand still and do nothing.  You are being stagnant and it will kill you.  In various places of the world, health officials are warning people about leaving water outside in certain areas and allowing it to be stagnant because of the infestation of mosquitoes.  When a container of water is left open, unused and stagnant, then mosquitoes leave various infestations that contaminate the water.  

Water is the number one necessary element for human beings to survive. We use water every day for various reasons.  If you are stagnant in your personal life, you are like this analogy of the water and mosquitoes. Your personal “water supply” is being contaminated by outside elements due to a lack of internal motion and drive.  I want you to know that the enemy is not only trying to hurt you, but he is also after the supply of what you are to the Kingdom of God and the world at large, concerning the call of God upon your life.  It is your supply; the enemy is after your supply.

Monday, June 5, 2017

Chapter 9 (Pgs. 177-180) Kindle (Pgs.145-147)

Living in A Martha World

Needed: An essential requirement or duty, or obligation, an urgent want as of something required, a condition or situation in which something is required or wanted.

Necessary: Being essential, indispensable, or requisite, acting or proceeding from compulsion or necessity, not free, and involuntary. It is unavoidably determined by prior conditions or circumstances; it is inevitable.

The Martha Syndrome: This is Martha after she welcomed Jesus into her house--overly occupied and too busy.  Imagine for a moment inviting someone into your home and then being overly occupied and too busy even to pay attention to them and serve them.  Well, this is exactly what Martha did, even though she had the greatest Guest of all in her home.  Ironically, she was going through the greatest hardship and tragedy of her life with the death of her brother.  What she needed was time with Jesus, the Healer, the Resurrector, and the Comforter.  Jesus was what she needed, but she did what was necessary in her eyes.  How many times have you had what you needed right in front of you, but settled for what you thought was necessary?

Martha was distracted with much serving. She went to Jesus and said, “Lord, is it nothing to You that my sister has left me to serve alone?”  She asked Jesus if He cared that the necessary things were going undone.  Jesus was occupied during this time with Mary, who was showering Him with appreciation while sitting and listening to His words and teachings.  Many times, we are so busy, but we need to sit and listen. When was the last time you sat still and listened before you moved? 

Being busy, even though you are doing the “necessary” things, is not always God’s assignment.  They are good things, but that does not mean they are God things.  It is all about motives.  Sometimes, we are busy in order to avoid things that we should really be focusing on.  We want to stay busy, so it will look like we are doing and accomplishing something to others.  We are sacrificing God for the sake of impressing others.

To take care of yourself would seem to be something that no one would have to tell you, but as women (wives/moms) we are always worried and consumed by everyone else’s needs.  When was the last time you did something for you?  It is wonderful to do great things for others, but charity starts at home, and then it goes abroad.  

If you neglect yourself, then are you really helping others?  If you are in a place of restlessness, burnout, and hopelessness, then you will not be good for others.  You have to consider yourself and really focus on your needs to make sure you are equipped to complete the tasks before you.

When Martha posed the question to Jesus, she gave Him her own answer and solution by telling Him to make Mary help her.  When she turned away from Him to go back to the necessary things, she was so preoccupied that Jesus had to call her name twice in order to get her attention.  “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things.”  This was Jesus’ correction to her about taking care of the necessary things versus the needed things.  Then Jesus explained to her what was needed, “There is need of only one or but a few things. Mary has chosen the good portion [that which is to her advantage], which shall not be taken away from her.”  Jesus said there is only one thing that is needed and it is the best portion.  When you do what is needed, nothing will be lost or taken away from you.  You gain and achieve by doing the needed!

Get to the Feet of the Master!

F.E.E.T. (Father Edification and Equipping Time)

Hospitality was Martha’s ministry, but she allowed it to distract her from the main thing.  The necessary is not the main thing; the main thing is what is needed, which is purpose.  Making time with God is a priority.  If there is a priority in your life that you think is necessary, but it keeps you away from God, then it is not a priority or the needed thing, but rather a distraction.

What is Needed First!

"Needs vs. Desires"

 You have to view your life, marriage, family, other relationships, destiny, & purpose from the perspective of the oxygen masks on an airplane. Before taking off, the airline stewardess will demonstrate how to put on an oxygen mask. But it is the profound words that she says about who you should place the mask on first, YOU! Yes, she tells you no matter who is sitting next to you, always put your oxygen mask on first! WOW! What insight we can gain from this. You have to see about & care for yourself as it relates to needs before you can be of any service, help, or assistance to anyone else.

Basically,  the airline stewardess is saying, if you put someone else’ s mask on first, you may not even have the opportunity to put yours own.

You put your kids’ needs above your desires, but not above your own needs. I too have been erroneous in the past when saying that you have to put your kids’ needs above your needs. No, as parents when our children are not of adulthood age, we should put their needs above our desires, but not our own needs. It may take awhile to let this one sink in, but always think about the oxygen mask on the flight, you have to deal with your needs in order to meet someone else’s needs.

The sacrifice is in meeting their needs above your desires and selfish wants, which we are entitled to have, but we often sacrifice for the sake of our kids. I am not saying don’t have wants and desires, but just know that you can’t sacrifice your needs and be beneficial to your marriage or your children. No more guilt over meeting your needs! You have to put your “oxygen mask” on first then assist your spouse and children in their needs, wants, and desires.

It is not the desire of any parent to put their “oxygen mask” on first, but it is a Need for you to do so in order to be the best person, spouse, and parent you can. You have to get a new working definition of Needs & Desires as it relates to you as a holistic person, your marriage as your priority/foundation, and with your kids (family).

Wives & Moms: If you really want to love your husband, then take care of & love his wife (you). Moms, if you really want to love your children, then take care of & love their mom (you).

Desires & Wants are Necessary, but we have to Refocus Our Lives on the Needed! 

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Chapter 8 (Pgs.169-176) Kindle (Pgs.138-144)

“If the enemy cannot defeat you, he will surely try to deceive you…
Know your weaknesses.”


Change your perspective.  Yesterday is not today!  Focusing on your past is a distraction; you are still looking through the rear-view mirror.  Why are you looking for the old among the new? Stop going for what you have seen and had before.  God is doing a new thing.  Right now, the roadblock for you is your outlook, which is looking through the rearview-mirror.  Let go of the old ideas, old ways, old thoughts, old habits, old people, old places, and anything else that is distracting you from walking into your new season.

When You Are Your Own Fatal Distraction

When you are your own fatal distraction, you bring about great destruction in your own life. Remember, Satan can only tempt you with what is already in your heart.  Do not allow your desires to distract you.  The Bible says, “There are many plans in a man’s heart, nevertheless the Lord’s counsel—that will stand” (Proverbs 19:21). “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death” (Proverbs 14:12). “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the hearts” (Proverbs 21:2).

There is only one way, God’s way.  

Life can sometimes feel like a 4-way stop.  

There is the left turn, the right turn, straight ahead, and even for some, a u-turn to go back.  No matter how many ways or options life presents as opportunities, there is still only one way, which is God’s way.  First, make sure that every desire in your heart is from God and not from your flesh.

At this point in life, God desires and expects your obedience no matter what it may cost you. He wants a Yes!  Even Jesus had to say to the Father, “Not my will, but Thy will be done.” You will not know what God wants or requires until you spend adequate time with God and seek out His will.  It is only when you surrender your will that you can pick up and discern the will of God.  

Your hold-up and hang-up on that relationship is a distraction.  Your inability to let go is stopping your growth.

  When you allow waste to remain in your life or allow others to waste your life and potential, then you are setting yourself up for failure and destruction.  When something is being wasted, there is no adequate return, one is used to no avail or profit; one is squandered, destroyed, devastated, and even ruined.

Being mistreated and wasted by others is to be gradually consumed, used up, and worn away; it even wears down and reduces bodily substance, health, and strength. It diminishes wealth and power.  This distraction is trying to mistreat and waste you, so it can use, consume, spend, or expend you thoughtlessly and carelessly.

Your attachment to this person, group or situation is destroying you and it is about to take your life.  It is robbing you of your identity, and trying to assassinate your destiny.  You are stagnant right now because you have doubters, dream snatchers, and destiny destroyers in your life!  You have not been able to experience growth in this season because waste is all around you.

Just like in the natural, we have to expel waste from our bodies or it will kill us because of the bacterial back-up in our system.  It is the same in the spiritual realm; waste must be expelled from our spirit if we are to grow and not have any back-up that can kill us. Many of our failures are because of the company we keep. There are sick and fake people in your life that you think are faithful to you, and you believe that they are good, but they are not God.

If you ordered a steak at a restaurant and it came out uncooked and undone, you would not eat it out of fear that it would make you sick.  You would send it back!  That is what some of you need to do with the sick and fake people in your life--send them back! In addition, you need to say, “I Don’t Want This--I Deserve Better than This!”  If you would not physically eat sick, undone, and non-edible stuff, why are you allowing sick and fake people to stay in your life, especially when they are only a distraction to you?  

If someone is sick in the natural and you hang around them long enough, then eventually you will be sick as well because they are infectious and contagious. You are going to catch what they have.  It is a S.T.D. (A Spiritual Transfer Disease).  Decide today that you don’t want to live a diseased life and you don’t want to be in covenant relationships with sick and fake people.

Monday, May 22, 2017

Chapter 8 (Pgs.161-169) Kindle (Pgs.131-138)


There has been a time in all of our lives when we have made the statement, “I was distracted because________________” (fill-in the blank). When it comes to distractions, excuses never explain and explaining never excuses.  Distractions do not come into our lives because we beckon or call them, but they do evolve and progress because we entertain them.  There are several types of distractions: flesh (sinful), emotional, and fatal.  All distractions start as subtle attacks, but eventually you find yourself tied-up, messed up, and totally distracted.  

The distractions come to take you off course.  Identify the who, what, and where of the distractions in your life.  It is the moment before breakthrough that the distraction is the most intense.  Not every distraction is final or fatal, but all of them are obstacles and roadblocks.  Distractions make you lust after something that you do not need in your life. They also cause you to miss appointments with God.  Life becomes painful due to distractions, because the mission and assignment of a distraction is to sidetrack you, so that you cannot move forward.  The 3-Ds of Distractions are Distortion, Deception, and Diversion.

Distractions are defined as mental distress or derangement that distracts and divides the attention, or prevents concentration.  Distractions amuse, entertain, and divert one’s attention.  Distractions are also a division or disorder caused by dissension or tumult.  In short, there is nothing good about distractions; the goal is to keep you away from destiny.  Distractions are like magicians at a magic show. There is No Power, but a whole lot of Tricks!  The enemy does not have power over you, but he uses tricks to distract you.  Just as in a magic show, it is all just an illusion that fascinates us.

The distraction comes from the first “D”-the Distortion of the truth.  To distort something is to twist out of shape, make crooked or deformed, to give a false, perverted, or disproportionate meaning to, and to misrepresent.  Distractions in the first phase are perverted, misrepresented, and false.  Do not make a covenant with a distorted illusion.

Once there is a distraction or a trick in play, the enemy’s method of operation is to first distort, then to Deceive (produce Deception).  Deception is defined as being misleading, a fraud, a hoax, and an impostor.  To be deceived by the enemy or his tricks is to have false persuasion that wastes or takes time away from you.  It causes you to believe something that is not true, which leads to error.  The act of deceiving is to cheat, to disappoint, to delude, to deprive, and to ensnare.

When you go from distortion to deception, then the enemy says to himself, “Gotcha!”  He knows now that he has diverted you or thwarted your plans, hopes, dreams, and destiny. To Divert means to turn aside as from a course or purpose.  Diversion is a Detour!  This is a maneuver that draws the attention of an opponent away from a planned point of action.  The Distortion, the Deception, and the Diversion have drawn you away from the main point.  The person, idea, desire, lust, or emotional issue constantly rises up to take away from you and to get you off course.  

Social Media Distractions

The question after the 3-Ds of Distraction is, “Where Are You?”  Our response to this question is usually just like that of Adam and Eve; we play the blame game, explaining why we fell for the distraction.  Adam said, “Lord, it was the woman you gave me.” Eve said, “It was the serpent,” but God punished each one for the part he or she played.  Denial does not need to be the fourth “D” of Distraction in your life.  Own up to how you were deceived, and then dismiss the enemy out of your life.  There is only one “D” of distraction when it comes to moving forward after the distortion, deception, and diversion-DISMISS!

The enemy uses our emotions to distract us through everyday circumstances. What you feel about a situation can cause it to appear distorted, thereby causing you to be deceived and end up in a Diversion all because of your emotions, or feelings. Let’s deal with Emotions.  Emotions are great when kept in check.  The devil works through your emotions in these areas:

Lustful desires: These are uncontrolled, passionate, or overpowering desires or cravings.  Lust is an overwhelming yearning for something. There is no benefit to lusting.  Distractions have no benefits that help or aid you in any way; they simply hinder you and your advancement.  Your lustful desires are coming from your flesh, not your spirit.  “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts” (Romans 13:14).  If you make no provision for your flesh and lustful desires, then you will walk in righteousness.  The lust of your flesh is what you want, not what God wants.

Loneliness: Loneliness stems from a lack of companions and it involves seclusion.  We must learn how to deal with disappointment, especially when it comes from others when their actions cause us to feel ostracized and rejected.  The alone time in your life could be God-ordained in order for Him to speak to you and reveal your destiny to you.  The most important objective in a season of loneliness is to avoid falling into depression. You have to have the right perspective in this season.  First, there is purpose behind being alone.  It is during this time that you develop the most. You should use the lonely time to focus on God because He wants to speak to you about you.  

It is only when everyone else is out of the picture that you are able to hear God clearly.  Secondly, you learn who you really are when no one else is around. This produces integrity and develops your true character.  Loneliness causes you to come to terms with yourself. Finally, realize that you are never actually alone because God is always there, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.  You  may be alone and feel lonely, but you are not deprived.

Loneliness is Not the Absence of People, It is the Absence of Purpose

Brokenness/Wounds: Unfortunately, heartbreak is a part of life for everyone.  It can come in the form of a broken relationship, a failed promise, or an unrealistic expectation of someone or something.  Nevertheless, if you do not deal with your brokenness and let God heal it, it can lead to a fatal distraction.  Brokenness can cause you to give up. It makes you feel like what you see right now is all that there will ever be. You are in a fragile and vulnerable state of attack from the enemy.  A broken heart is very similar to a broken mirror.  The mirror still gives a reflection, but it is a distorted one, and the image is not clear.  

When you begin to live or view your life through brokenness, you have a distorted image of yourself, God, and your future.  Just like with a broken mirror, you have to be careful when you handle it or you may be seriously injured.  The only person that can handle your brokenness, and mend you back together as if it never happened, is God.  He is not worried about being injured or affected by your brokenness because His word, glory, and love are the antidote for it!

The Potter Wants to Put You Back Together Again

“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

“He heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).

“Then I went down to the potter’s house, and there he was, making something at the wheel. 4And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter; so he made it again into another vessel, as it seemed good to the potter to make” (Jeremiah 18:3-4).

Anger: Anger is a distraction that gives no resolution to going forward.  Anger is permissible according to the Word of God, but the sin that anger can cause is not.  To say that you have never acted in anger is to deceive yourself.  How you handle your anger determines whether it will become a fatal distraction in your life.  Anger blinds you; if you allow it to grow unchecked in your life, it can send you into an uncontrollable rage. Anger takes up valuable space in your life!  Despite the circumstance or situation, you have to maintain your composure and act in accordance with the character of Christ.  Wisdom can come forth during an angry moment, if you allow yourself time to assess the situation.      

“A quick-tempered man acts foolishly… 29He who is slow to wrath has great understanding” (Proverbs 14:17, 29).

“Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still.”  Selah 
(Psalm 4:4).

“Do not let your mouth cause your flesh to sin” (Ecclesiastes 5:6).

“Be angry, and do not sin:  do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26-27).

Envy/Jealousy: These twin distractions cause us to forget that life is unique, and our life is not meant to be a copy of someone else’s. Your life is special and authentic. God created a life special and “made to order” for all of us, and He has designed a life driven by a unique purpose for everyone.  Our lives are as different, unique, and original as our fingerprints.  These fatal distractions are the stumbling block of all stumbling blocks when we find ourselves envious and jealous of someone else.  This goes against the very essence of who God made you to be.  

When you are jealous and envious of someone, it is the equivalent of saying, “God, who I am and what I have is nothing and it is not good enough.”  We must be careful not to covet what we think someone else has that is above us.  It is only until you learn how they acquired it and what it takes to maintain it that you will conclude, “Maybe I don’t want what they have after all.”  Envy and Jealousy actually take away from you; rather than imparting anything into you; they leave you empty inside. 

“But as for me, my feet had almost stumbled; my steps had nearly slipped...For I was envious of the boastful, When I saw the prosperity of the wicked” (Psalm 73:2-3).

Fear & Doubt: Fear is not real!  It is an emotional illusion about a certain situation.  Just because the future or the next step is unknown to you, it is not unknown to God.  If God knows it, then that is enough.  “Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands…For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:6-7).  We must realize that fear is a spirit that is not of God.  This scripture admonishes us to stir up the gifts within us so that they can combat the spirit of fear.  Your gift came before your fear!  It is only when we are walking in the things of God and in our gifts that fear rears its ugly head in order to try to divert us.  

Once fear tries to invade you, you must tap back into the Spirit, which God has bestowed upon you.  Power, Love, and a Sound Mind is what God has given you.  Power:“God is my strength and power, And He makes my way perfect” (2 Samuel 22:33).  “For the Kingdom of God is not in word, but in power” (1 Corinthians 4:20).  Love is the essence of Who God is. 8“He who does not love does not know God, for God is love… 18If love is to have its perfect work, then fear must die! There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out all fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love” (1 John 4:8, 18). A Sound Mind: “The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).

Rejection: This is the ultimate fatal distraction.  This distraction makes you feel put out and disowned.  The spirit of rejection is to cast out or eject, to discard as defective or useless.  It is the sense of being denied, having no access, and being hindered.  Sometimes, you have to be thankful for some people, places, and groups who put you out.  

The best thing you can do for some people is to send them a thank-you card for putting you out.  If you had stayed with them, then you would have died.  They were killing you softly with their words.  It was all lies. The spirit of rejection makes you think that no one will ever accept you, and that is a lie.

Rejection can actually shift you into your rightful position.  If you are rejected from something, then you are ejected in order to land somewhere else!  God has been trying to get you somewhere else, but you could not let go of where you were, so you had to be rejected in order to be projected into the right place. “He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief” (Isaiah 53:3).  Jesus’ rejection sent Him to the Cross; it helped Him get to his destiny, but it was painful.  Let’s deal with the pain of rejection, which is a fatal distraction because it causes you to listen to your pain rather than your purpose.  

Your purpose has to speak louder than your pain.  The Bible says that rejection is acquainted with grief and sorrow.  You need time (the process) to heal over being hurt, but do not stay there too long, because once you wipe away your tears, you will see that God has already prepared a new place for you.  Get the right perspective of rejection, “I am being rejected in order to be Projected into Destiny!”

Shame & Guilt: These two distractions bring about feelings of pain, disappointment, humiliation, and regret. They can cause a feeling of ostracization from others and especially from God.  These distractions are tricks of the enemy to make us feel that what we have done has defined us for life and that we will not be able to change.  Shame and Guilt leave us with a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness. These emotions take us away from the redemptive grace of Christ.  When there is an overwhelming feeling of condemnation in your life, recognize that as the devil.  The Holy Spirit does not condemn, but convicts us in order to bring us back to Christ.  However, the devil tries to use guilt and shame to condemn us so that we will give up on life.